Let's talk about something that often goes unsaid: as thrilling as getting married is, it can really shake up your social life. Every year, I chat with several couples who are upset because a bridesmaid or a groomsman isn't pulling their weight, or worse, disappearing when needed most. It's tough, but it's also a part of the journey of getting married. Sometimes, not everyone can come along for the ride.
Understanding the Shifts: Getting married is a huge deal, and it naturally puts your friendships to the test. It’s common to see some friends drift away, sometimes because they’re caught up in their own lives, or maybe because they find it hard to fit into your new world. It hurts, but it’s often just a part of growing and moving on. It's perfectly okay to let people go; not everyone is meant to be in your life forever.
Empathy and Compassion: While you're floating on cloud nine, don't forget that your friends have their own lives and possibly their own struggles. A quick call or a message to check in on them can make all the difference. It keeps the friendship genuine and shows that even amid your happiness, you care about theirs.
Building New Bridges: As you and your spouse start this new chapter, you’ll meet other couples who might be on a similar path. These new friendships can be great, but remember, your marriage comes first. It’s important to pace yourself—connect with new friends in ways that enrich your life but don’t overcommit emotionally or timewise.
Keeping Old Friends Close: For the friends who stick by you, make sure you show your appreciation. Set up regular coffee dates, invite them over for dinner, or just send them a funny meme now and then. These are the friends who will add joy to your married life and remind you of who you were before you said 'I do.'
Yes, your friend circle will likely change once you're married. But that doesn't mean losing your cherished friendships. With a little understanding and effort, you can keep your old friends close and make some wonderful new ones while continuing to build a beautiful life with your partner.
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XO,
Minister Sharnise